Trying New Kinks

I think my favorite thing about being a domme is when i I meet a new sub, and you know they’re going to be fun to play with. I have been open to meeting new people and have met several interesting ones that have stuck around to be sure. 

The most interesting thing I have learned, and I want to share it with everyone, is that my kinks are changing and evolving. I think that a lot of times, playing really has to do with just finding the right partner to explore that kink with. I have had different people approach me, and some people you just know will be fun as soon as it starts. 

There are two particular kinks that I have been exploring more and enjoying that I did not expect. The first one is blackmail and exposure. I have, up until this point, always said I do not do blackmail. A big part of this has to do with the fact that I had a bad first experience with it. At this point, I honestly don’t even remember the details. I just remember saying no after talking to them for a while and feeling super uncomfortable with the whole idea, and listing it as a limit for myself. I have seen some people with ideas for it, that I have considered over time, but ultimately, I have not engaged at all. 

Enter random sub. He didn’t’ ask for it, he just asked for an ass rating. Once he sent the pic, he became fun. “You aren’t going to save that, are you?” For anyone who has not been in a scene with a new partner that seems like they genuinely don’t want you to. The thing is that this is most subs' way of telling you what they want without asking for it. I instantly smiled, told him the safe word, and then saved it. He used the safe word within a couple of minutes. We chatted a little afterwards to discuss it all, chat a little, and general aftercare. He was super happy and I had so

 much fun!. We have still been talking, but he’s a session type, which is totally fine and sometimes perfect. 

The other new kink that I’m exploring is hypnosis. This is also something that I have said I don’t do in the past. Not because I’m against it in any way at all, but because I have aphantasia and can not visualize. So creating a scene for someone else isn’t exactly my forte. I had a new sub pop in and told him that I have wanted to do it, kind of, but I didn’t think I’d be good. He said well, let's try together. Ok cool. So I made a video and sent it, he gave feedback, and it’s honestly really fun. One thing about me that I have been told my whole life is that I have a great voice. Something like audio where I’m chatting with you (Or check out my podcast Bearing Our Soles) is perfect for me. I have been told to do phone things also but I don’t have time for that right now. 

I do all this while I work full time, remember. So I am a busy woman. I try to respond to everyone who is respectful and has a question, but I will not reply to everyone looking to be submissive. At this time, I am only taking financial subs. I have a couple of subs that I am working with, and I feel really good about the dynamics that I have currently unfolding. I am also finally getting to feel more awake again, most days. Turns out I was running around with quite low blood pressure for a few weeks. This is after the other issues that have been resolved, so it’s all getting better, and I can think again. Hopefully things will pick up on the blog with it also!.